What makes a good mom?
I had a light-bulb realization while my girls were with their Granny last week.
I'm a good mom.
Such a small statement, but a huge confession. Maybe you've already made it.
When I told DK of my realization, he looked a bit shocked. "You're just now realizing that?!"
Such a small statement, but a huge confession. Maybe you've already made it.
When I told DK of my realization, he looked a bit shocked. "You're just now realizing that?!"
I promise, I'm not looking for validation when I say this. Over time, I've had moments of feeling like a good mom, and those who really know me have been generous with their compliments... but I've never told myself these words. I'm a really good mom.
I suppose, deep down, I felt that self-confession was reserved for mothers who never had an 'off' day. Some days I felt like I just blew it... I got impatient over something inconsequential, didn't reserve room for enough one-on-one time, or maybe didn't keep my word, etc.
I suppose, deep down, I felt that self-confession was reserved for mothers who never had an 'off' day. Some days I felt like I just blew it... I got impatient over something inconsequential, didn't reserve room for enough one-on-one time, or maybe didn't keep my word, etc.
Darn you, mommy-guilt!
I could tell you the heart-heavy story of a mom I witnessed yelling at her teary, sleepy-eyed baby girl in Ross last week, telling her "shut-up!" and "I don't care!" It was not a normal situation, y'all. I was 'this close' to calling authorities myself; however, hubs gently reminded me that unless she physically harms the baby, there was really nothing I could do. So, so sad.
I can only hope that on a daily bases, my girls know that they are loved beyond measure. By us... and God. He's part of this Family Team, too.
I know there are many answers when it comes to the makings of a good mother. However, to keep it simple, I will say that it comes with... time. Time well-spent, together.
Sometimes, it seems just like last week that I was carting the girls in their baby seat... Time goes by too quickly and I have limited time with them in 'this' season, as an 8 and 10 yr old. My goal is to make time more of a priority. Unplugging from anything that requires an electrical outlet... and plugging into their needs more.
Unless...
Spending some fun-quality time requires an outlet! :)
Seriously, y'all... Would a 'bad' mom get up before the roosters {we don't have roosters, but I've always heard they get up early}, take hubs to the airport, return home to cook scrambled eggs and pancakes, attempt Just Dance on the Wii for her girls, taking a break only to make homemade Popsicles??! That was my morning.
A mom should get extra points if she allows herself to be videoed when she has I-went-to-bed-too-late-showered-and-slept-on-my-hair-wet-didn't-brush-it-no-makeup-soooo-sleepy-look. Just sayin'. This may require a nap, in which your dog may decide to have her first potty accident in over 2 years. {weird... because she is good at holding it... and because she doesn't whine at the back door, but just stands there. how is that supposed to wake me up? I could blame the cat, but I don't think her bladder is that big. Oi.} More points. Again, just sayin'.
Pst... Don't judge too harshly. This was my first day with the game. I was honestly thankful for the grainy upload this time. {Does anyone know how I can avoid the grain? It was recorded on my Flip video and played fine on the computer. Upload on blogger = grain. Boo! Why? Please email me.}
Even though I didn't work up a good sweat, it served as my workout for the day, too. Time with girls and a workout. Double check! See? I'm a good mom. :)
If you're a mom and you haven't told yourself this before...
Give yourself permission.
I'm a really good mom.
Positive things can come of positive confession anyway, right?
Now go un-plug and cuddle your baby {big or small, if they're close} or plug-in...
I recommend Just Dance via the Wii. Lots of fun! But if my girls ask, I totally did it for them. ;)
Of course you're a good mom...haven't you been listening to all of us?! Love the video; y'all have so much fun! And, you know when the girls grow up and have babies of their own, they're going to be terrific moms, too, because they've had a wonderful teacher!
ReplyDeleteHA! Love the video! I have to say you look as young as your girls here. Yes, a good mama, indeed!
ReplyDeletelove, love, love the video. so fun! my girls would love that, i must look into that one.
ReplyDeleteand yes, you ARE a good mom!
kerry
Well, you're a better mom than I am. I would NEVER let myself be taped dancing. :)
ReplyDeleteLove this post! :) And the video, of course! We too are fans of Just Dance. And hey, I thought those moves were STELLAR! Have you been practicing...? :) And by the way.. you're a GREAT mom!!!
ReplyDeleteawwwwww we wanna come play! the video is too stinkin' cute!!
ReplyDeletelove this post! and will definitely have too look into this game!